“It is said that the darkest hour of the night comes just before dawn” – Paulo Coelho
When we’re going through a tough time in life, we grasp at straws to find ways to ease our distress. Amongst other methods, we try distracting ourselves, numbing our feelings through alcohol and drugs, sleeping our sorrows away, or seeking out advice from close confidants. Several of us even turn to professional therapy. While some of these tactics are healthier than others, they have a common purpose: to help us find the light at the end of the tunnel.
What severely exacerbates such a dark period is irrational fear. We often become (consciously or subconsciously) fearful and insecure that we’ll never escape the tunnel. That we’ll be stuck in this distressing period forevermore. If we could shed this fear, and instead reassure ourselves that brighter days are to come, they would come far sooner. But in such a fragile state, many lack the wherewithal to harness such confidence for themselves. I’ve found that the best way to find reassurance is to engage with people and resources who can acutely relate to our anguish. Continue reading