The most powerful form of reassurance

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“It is said that the darkest hour of the night comes just before dawn” – Paulo Coelho

When we’re going through a tough time in life, we grasp at straws to find ways to ease our distress. Amongst other methods, we try distracting ourselves, numbing our feelings through alcohol and drugs, sleeping our sorrows away, or seeking out advice from close confidants. Several of us even turn to professional therapy. While some of these tactics are healthier than others, they have a common purpose: to help us find the light at the end of the tunnel.

What severely exacerbates such a dark period is irrational fear. We often become (consciously or subconsciously) fearful and insecure that we’ll never escape the tunnel. That we’ll be stuck in this distressing period forevermore. If we could shed this fear, and instead reassure ourselves that brighter days are to come, they would come far sooner. But in such a fragile state, many lack the wherewithal to harness such confidence for themselves. I’ve found that the best way to find reassurance is to engage with people and resources who can acutely relate to our anguish. Continue reading

Weathering the shitty times in life

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“When you stop thinking about yourself all the time, a certain sense of repose overtakes you” – Leonard Cohen

When life is going well, our eyes look past the happy people around us. We’re too caught up in our own contentment to notice them. But when life becomes shitty, and our anxiety and depression come barreling in, we can’t help but notice anyone with even the slightest semblance of a smile. They pop out at us like the giant eye sores that they are. The couple whispering to each other, hand-in-hand. The group of friends laughing uproariously. The family having a jovial conversation at the Thai restaurant down the street. Every damn person on social media. Those happy people suck, don’t they? Continue reading